Don't be concerned about adult children any more, otherwise, cannot stop the
Don't regard the adult children as of under age and serve as a guardian for
them, so to avoid incurring complaints.
三、不必事事都「非知道不可」，尊重已成年子女的隱私權、自主權**。* No necessary to know everything, pay
respect to the privacy and the right of decision-making of adult children.
[image: Three-monkey relief carving (hear no evil, see no evil, speak no
evil) on Shinkyusha. Nikko, Japan]
Don't regard children and grandchildren as a center of life, look for
personal social circles, so to avoid trapping yourself in the dilemma of
anxious expectation and disappointment daily.
Raise a habit of writing, painting, exercising, singing to sublime your
mood by arts and creation rather than complain to people coming across.
[image: Elderly musicians of the Naxi Orchestra playing traditional
instruments. Lijiang, Yunnan, China]
More admiration, less complaints and appreciate what other people have done
for pleasing you.
七、不要因孫輩和子女媳婿爭執衝突，這樣只會惡性循環，害了你的孫輩**。 * Don't involve in the dispute between grandchildren and adult children, this act just causes adverse effects in abad circle and hurt your grandchildren. *
Don't cry over sickness, just go to see a doctor and take the necessary
medical pills as prescribed, and be patient if failed to cure.
九、不要疑心病太重，要感激還願意留在你身邊的人，免得最後連他也走了**！ * Don't be skeptical to others too much, be grateful to the person who left around you, otherwise, he will go away from you too eventually.
Participate in religious activities often, be stick to belief and take
pleasant, optimistic attitudes toward the future.