一、**不要再替成年子女操心,才不會碎碎唸**。*
Don't be concerned about adult children any more, otherwise, cannot stop the
annoying chatters.
二、不要再將成年子女當成未成年來「監護」,以免顧人怨**。*
Don't regard the adult children as of under age and serve as a guardian for
them, so to avoid incurring complaints.
三、不必事事都「非知道不可」,尊重已成年子女的隱私權、自主權**。* No necessary to know everything, pay
respect to the privacy and the right of decision-making of adult children.
[image: Three-monkey relief carving (hear no evil, see no evil, speak no
evil) on Shinkyusha. Nikko, Japan]
四、不要再以兒、孫為生活重心,尋找自己的園地,才不致天天望穿秋水**。*
Don't regard children and grandchildren as a center of life, look for
personal social circles, so to avoid trapping yourself in the dilemma of
anxious expectation and disappointment daily.
五、不要逢人就訴苦,寧可寫作、畫畫、練功、唱歌,以藝術、創作昇華情緒**。*
Raise a habit of writing, painting, exercising, singing to sublime your
mood by arts and creation rather than complain to people coming across.
[image: Elderly musicians of the Naxi Orchestra playing traditional
instruments. Lijiang, Yunnan, China]
六、不要凡事抱怨,多欣賞、感謝別人為取悅你所做的努力**。*
More admiration, less complaints and appreciate what other people have done
for pleasing you.
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七、不要因孫輩和子女媳婿爭執衝突,這樣只會惡性循環,害了你的孫輩**。 * Don't involve in the dispute between grandchildren and adult children, this act just causes adverse effects in abad circle and hurt your grandchildren. *
八、不要因病痛而唉唉叫,有病要治病,領了藥要服藥,治不好的要忍耐**。*
Don't cry over sickness, just go to see a doctor and take the necessary
medical pills as prescribed, and be patient if failed to cure.
九、不要疑心病太重,要感激還願意留在你身邊的人,免得最後連他也走了**! * Don't be skeptical to others too much, be grateful to the person who left around you, otherwise, he will go away from you too eventually.
十、要多多親近宗教,有堅定的信仰,對未來抱著開心、樂觀的態度**。*
Participate in religious activities often, be stick to belief and take
pleasant, optimistic attitudes toward the future.